First Step: Assume Responsibility

There's really only two ways of looking at life; either you're responsible for your experience, or you're ultimately a victim of circumstances mostly outside of your control. If you do not take responsibility for where and when you exist and all of the circumstances that have led to who and where and what you are right now, then you cannot assume your free will, creative role as intelligent designer of your reality.

At first, your mind might scream at you that you're lying to yourself; that is because your mind doesn't want the responsibility. It doesn't want the power. It doesn't want to be disappointed. It doesn't want to be hurt. It doesn't want to fail - and there's no way to fail, if one assumes the belief that they are, ultimately, the victim of forces beyond their control.

See how it works? Become a victim, no more "failing", no disappointment. Darwinism and materialism, the views that we are all, ultimately, nothing more than robotic, biological machines programmed by physics and biology without any true free will, removes us from any sense of responsibility and - ultimately - anything to meaningfully motivate us.

When you go about the day, assume responsibility for what you find there. Nobody else is ultimately to "blame" for anything that ever occurs to you, you have created every. single. thing. you. observe. or. experience. Own it. Refuse to see yourself as a victim of anything. Not even aging or the limitations of your body or of gravity or anything else. You created all that - all of it - as a mechanism for developing an experience; the experience you are now having.

If you want to change your experience, you first have to accept that you are creating your experience, all of it. Nobody can change it for you, and nobody can keep you from changing it - except yourself.